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Congregational Health Ministry (Who
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HERE'S TO YOUR HEALTH ! (Topic Index)
Words of Guidance from the Bible…May they be a Source of Health and Healing.
"Bless the Lord, O my soul, and do no forget all his benefits—who forgives all your
iniquity, who heals all your diseases." —Psalm 103:2-3.
Congregational Health Ministry and Parish Nursing
In 1988, the General Assembly of the Presbyterian Church (USA) called churches to be congregations that encourage and promote health and wholeness. Today, many congregations have responded to the call to be a place of health and wholeness and have developed health ministries unique to their own congregation and community. Most churches cannot build hospitals or clinics, but they can become communities of caring that seek to sustain each person in body, mind and spirit, teaching that faith and health are interwoven and cannot be separated.
The Congregational Health Ministry of this church is accomplished through the efforts of a group composed of health professionals, a physician and nurses, health educators and lay members who are particularly interested in health issues. These health ministers combine their knowledge and experience with their willingness to serve not only the congregation, but the community. Some of the reasons this group came together are:
- Presbyterians surveyed in 2003 ranked the challenges of Health and Related Issues ahead of family and children, work, social activities and love and marriage.
- John Calvin reminded us we are not alone. Nor are we immune. Health problems – both temporary and chronic- are found among our membership, but not always expressed. We believe we can all experience better health after risks have been identified and addressed.
- Presbyterian congregations have a median age of 56, and are experiencing the reality of health issues and care-giving that often accompany the aging process and impact both individuals and their younger family members.
- Congregational Health Ministries articulate and demonstrate willingness to act as Christ did, and adhere to a belief in compassionate concern for others that is foundational to our denominational faith group and informs our moral values.
Parish nurses are a vital part of the Congregational Health Ministry. Their role is not primarily to deal with sickness, but more significantly to be:
- Health educators and teachers to promote healthy lifestyles and help people understand the relationship between lifestyle, faith and well-being.
- Personal health counselors to help people sort out health problems and make appropriate plans for handling them.
- Communication links and support for community health resources and services, to provide referrals and be a liaison for the church and its members.
- Organizers of health support groups to assist those in the congregation with particular concerns.
- Resources to assist with the assessment of congregational and community health needs.
Parish nurses affirm the church as a place for the prevention of illness or “disease” as they teach and support members in living with “ease” physically, spiritually, emotionally and socially.
Your Congregational Health Ministry provides health education via articles each month in Tower Tidings and weekly briefs in the Sunday bulletin. Updated material regarding community health programs is posted on the Health Ministry bulletin board in the Parish House. In addition, a number of age-specific programs have been developed and offered for teens, adults and seniors.
Health Ministry nurses try to follow up with members of the congregation who have been hospitalized. Nurses are readily available for consultation and assistance in navigating through the health care system.
Blood pressure screening is available between services on the second Sunday of every month in the narthex. Other screenings for glucose, etc. have also been made available.
Outreach into the community continues to be done through the sponsoring of an annual blood drive and through weekly provision of health care at the Community Soup Clinic.
Your Health Ministry would like to learn how to more fully serve you and meet your needs. We would love to have new members join us and we would especially like to offer our services to any group in the church who can use our contributions. Please let us hear from you by leaving a message at the Parish House.
MKW
Preventing or relieving neck pain
Most neck pain that isn’t due to arthritis or an injury is completely
avoidable by
improving your posture and body mechanics during the day.
• Sit straight in your chair with your low back supported.
• Avoid sitting for long periods; take mini breaks, get up or change
position to
stretch your neck muscles
• Working at a computer, adjust the monitor with the top of the
screen at eye level
• It you use the telephone a lot, consider a headset or speaker
phone
• Adjust your car seat to a more upright position to support your
head & lower back
• If neck stiffness is worse in the morning, check your sleeping
posture and your
activities the day before
• Improve your sleeping support with a hard mattress or special
neck support pillow
• Avoid pillows that force your head forward when you are sleeping
on your back
• If stress is a factor, learn and use muscle relaxation exercises
“Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall
be saved;
for you are my praise” Jeremiah 17:14
Take nothing for granted when it comes to your health!
Have you ever wondered how often you should have a routine medical exam?
If you are healthy, a general timetable for routine checkups is as follows:
- Twice in your 20s
- Three times in your 30s
- Four times in your 40s
- Five times in your 50s
- Annually after 60
If you need more frequent exams or have risk factors for specific diseases, your doctor will tell you how frequently to be examined.
“Beloved, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health,
just as it is well with your soul.” 3 John 1:2
February is the month to focus on being "heart smart". It is time to review all the factors that are necessary to maintain a healthy cardiovascular system and prevent the occurrence of heart attacks. First, it is important to recognize the signs and symptoms of a heart attack. Then, considering preventive measures follows.
Heart Attack symptoms:
Chest pain, pressure or fullness New pain or pressure in arms, neck or
Jaw pain, pressure or numbness upper back
Cold sweats Pressure or fullness in the upper abdomen
Shortness of breath Nausea, or feeling of lightheadedness
Excessive sudden fatigue
Preventive Measures include monitoring of blood pressure, cholesterol levels and blood glucose levels. A review of the norms follows.
Blood Pressure
Normal: Less than 120/80
Pre-hypertensive: 120/80 - 139/89
Hypertensive: 140/90 or higher
Total Cholesterol Blood Glucose (fasting)
Desirable: Less than 200 mg/dl Normal: Less than 100 mg/dl
Borderline High: 200 to 239 Prediabetic: 100-125
High: 240 and greater Diabetic: 126 or higher
HDL Cholesterol LDL Cholesterol
Protective: 60 mg/dl and higher Optimal: Less than 100 mg/dl
Moderate risk: 40-59 Near Optimal: 100-129
High risk: Below 40 Borderline high: 130-159
High: 160 and above
Other Preventive measures include eating a diet low in saturated fats and high in antioxidants. Most physicians recommend taking a daily vitamin supplement. Some foods to consider for their special qualities include;
Blueberries and Strawberries - contain natural antioxidants that neutralize harmful substances that contribute to heart disease. They also prevent blood clots and reduce artery inflammation.
Nuts - almonds, walnuts, macadamias, and hazelnuts are high in monounsaturated fat which lowers LDL (bad cholesterol) without reducing HDL (good cholesterol). Limit intake to 1 ounce each day as nuts are high in calories.
Avocados - high in fat, but it's the monounsaturated type. Avocados inhibit cholesterol absorption and protect against hypertension.
Chocolate - dark, European chocolate contains flavonols that lower both blood pressure and LDL cholesterol. Again, be aware of calories.
Red Wine - contains antioxidants that help prevent blood clots and raise HDL cholesterol.
Olive Oil - best monounsaturated oil to use to help lower cholesterol levels.
Another Preventive Measure is to develop cardio- fitness. This requires working out at least 30 to 60 minutes at least three times a week. This exercise is more than just strolling around the block. You need to check with your doctor to see what type of a program is suitable for you.
Women, be “Heart Smart”
Every year more than 500,000 women die of heart disease. This number exceeds that of deaths from all types of cancer. Women need to dispel existing myths regarding their risk. One common myth is that they are completely protected by estrogen. Although it is true that women don’t typically develop heart disease until 10 years after menopause, a number of factors can undermine this advantage. If a woman smokes, is diabetic, has high blood pressure or cholesterol, she jeopardizes any protection that estrogen might provide.
Have your blood pressure taken.
One simple way to monitor your risk for heart disease is to have your blood pressure taken. High blood pressure can boost your risk for heart disease and heart attack by about 25% of more. So, do yourself a favor, have your blood pressure checked today by a nurse in the narthex. If it’s elevated, talk about ways to lower it, including diet revisions, exercise, stress management, and if necessary, medication.
"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life." Proverbs 4:23.
PHYSICAL THERAPY COUCH POTATO WORKOUT
Super Bowl Sunday is a day of sitting in front of the TV for a four hour long
spectacle and eating high fat and high caloric snacks. Physical therapists say
you can cheer for your team and exercise your muscles without having to take
your eyes off the TV. There are two exercises that you can do while watching
the game.
Hail Mary Back and Arm Extensor
1. Stand with your knees slightly bent, your arms lifted to shoulder level and
your palms towards the ceiling.
2. Keep your stomach tucked in and inhale.
3. Exhale as you pull both arms back and slowly touch your shoulder blades
together. Hold for 5-10 seconds while breathing evenly. Do this five
times.
Touchdown Wall Squats—to work the muscles in the front of your thighs,
hips, back and abs.
1. Stand on a non-skid surface with your back against a wall and your feet
two feet away from the wall. Keep your feet 6-8 inches apart.
2. Inhale as you keep your stomach in and head forward.
3. Slowly slide your back down the wall to a near sitting position. It is
important to be sure that as you slide down the wall, your knees are
directly over your ankles.
4. Exhale as you lower your body and hold the position for 5-10 seconds
while breathing evenly. Return slowly to the starting position.
5. Repeat three times.
ENJOY THE GAME!
Exercise should not be looked on as a chore but enrichment for general health.
Holiday Safety Tips
Most of us count the beautiful Christmas decorations of our childhood among our fondest memories. As we deck our halls and trim our trees for another joyful holiday season, let's follow a few basics of safety and avoid the accidents that could make our Christmas celebration memorable for the wrong reasons.
Each year, an estimated 370 fires involve Christmas trees, both real and artificial, and 12,500 people are treated in hospital emergency rooms for injuries related to holiday decorations. During 2001, 18,000 home fires started by candles were reported to fire departments.
The leading factor contributing to Christmas tree fires and property damage was a heat source too close to combustibles. Forty-four percent of Christmas tree fires in homes involved no equipment, but when equipment was cited it was usually electrical system components.
Never use: electric lights on a metal tree; strings of lights with worn bulb connections; lighted candles on the tree.
o Always unplug lights before replacing light bulbs or fuses.
o Don't mount lights in any way that can damage the cord's wire insulation (i.e. using clips, not nails).
o Determine the maximum number of strings of bulbs that may be connected.
o Don't overload extension cords.
o Extinguish all candles when leaving room or going to sleep.
o Unplug Christmas tree lights before leaving home or going to sleep.
o Keep live trees as moist as possible by giving them plenty of water daily
o Do not purchase a tree that is dry or dropping needles.
o Choose a sturdy tree stand designed not to tip over
o Make sure the tree is at least three feet away from any heat source and positioned near an outlet. Do not place the tree where it may block exits.
o Use ladders with care.
Have a Safe, Happy, Healthy Christmas!!!!!!!!!!
Statistics provided by the National Fire Protection Association.
KEY FACTS ABOUT AVIAN INFLUENZA A (H5N1) VIRUS
(BIRD FLU)
The CDC states that the current risk to Americans from the H5N1 bird flu
outbreak in Asia and Eastern Europe is low. The strain that has been found
has not been detected in the US. There have been no human cases of the
H5N1 flu in the US. It is possible that travelers returning from affected
countries in Asia could be infected if they were exposed to the virus.
Medical and public health personnel have been watching closely to find any
such cases.
The CDC currently advises that travelers to countries with known outbreaks
of influenza, avoid poultry farms, contact with animals in live food markets
and any surfaces that appear to be contaminated with feces from poultry or
other animals. No travel restrictions to affected countries are in place at this
time.
The US government is stockpiling Tamiflu and other medicines that
scientists believe might be effective in the event of a pandemic virus.
What actions should be taken right now?
• Eat right, wash hands and take commonsense steps to bolster health and
immune systems.
• Get a flu shot. The vaccine for the upcoming flu season doesn't confer
protection against bird fu, but protecting against conventional flu can
make you stronger against a new illness.
And... answers to commonly asked questions.
YES, it IS safe to maintain a bird feeder in your yard.
NO, you do NOT have to report seeing a dead bird.
YES, you CAN plan on having turkey for Thanksgiving!
How Healthy is Your Medicine Cabinet?
Two-thirds of American medicine cabinets are likely to contain expired or nearly
empty medications. Eighty percent of Americans clean out their refrigerators
regularly, but only 42 percent clean out their medicine cabinets as the seasons
change. It is important to give your medicine chest a good once-over to ensure
that you are familiar with your medications, that they are up-to-date and properly
stored, and that they are equipped with essential products.
Once a year, check for expired and unusable medications. Choose a holiday,
family birthday, or the day you change your smoke alarm batteries as your makeover
day.
♦ Discard expired medicines, since they can lose potency
♦ Discard unlabeled medicines or any mixed together in one container (to
avoid dosing errors)
♦ Keep all the medicines your family may need on hand to avoid emergency
drugstore trips for basics like pain relievers and antacids
Discard responsibly: Do not flush them—flushed medicines can end up in the
ground water supply and can cause problems for wildlife. If you must throw out
old medicines in your household trash, keep them in their containers, doublebag,
and keep separate from food garbage. Ask your sanitation department about
“household hazardous waste collection” or inquire at pharmacies and hospitals
for collection programs.
Now that you have cleaned out your medicine cabinet, it is time to re-stock. The
following is a list of essential medicines you may want to keep on hand:
♦ Antibiotic cream
♦ Anti-itch cream (hydrocortisone)
♦ Pain relievers/anti-inflammatories/fever reducers (aspirin, acetaminophen
(Tylenol), ibuprofen—no aspirin for children)
♦ Cold medicine
♦ Anti-diarrheal
♦ Antacid
♦ Ipecac (to induce vomiting)
♦ Thermometer
♦ Bandages/gauze/adhesive tape
♦ Instant ice pack
♦ Eye wash
♦ Benadryl (antihistamine for allergic reactions)
Hints and Tips:
♦ Store all medicines out of reach of children. Keep purses with meds in them
away from children, and never refer to medication as “candy”.
♦ Pay attention to expiration dates. Some medications simply lose their
effectiveness after time, others become dangerous.
♦ Never take someone else’s prescription medications or give anyone yours.
♦ Store all medications in their original packaging and read and follow all label
directions.
♦ Dispose of leftover prescription medications.
♦ Store medicines in a cool, dry place, so they will be safe and work when you
need them.
Nancy Rossman
Halloween Safety
The excitement of children and adults at this time of year sometimes makes them forget to be careful. Simple common sense can do a lot to stop any tragedies from happening.
· Help your child select or make a costume that will be safe. Make it fireproof, with eye holes large enough for good peripheral vision.
· Make sure that if your child is carrying a prop, such as a scythe, butcher knife or a pitchfork, that the tips are smooth and flexible enough to not cause injury if fallen on.
· Kids always want to help with the pumpkin carving. Although there are carving kits that are available with small saws rather than knives, small children can still be cut by them. It's best to let the kids clean out the pumpkin and draw a face on it, which you can carve for them.
· If you set jack-o-lanterns on your porch with candles in them, make sure that they are far enough out of the way so that kids' costumes won't accidentally be set on fire.
· It's not safe to let kids walk the streets alone. Send a responsible adult orolder teenager with them.
Make Halloween a fun, safe and happy time for your kids.
We offer some reminders that may be helpful to members of the congregation:
HEALTH CARE
Blood pressures are taken by Nancy Rossman RN on the 2nd Sunday of each month in the Narthex. Consider having yours checked periodically!
Medical supplies such as wheelchairs, walkers, bedpans, etc, are available from the Deacon's Closet in the basement of the Parish House
PRAYER REQUESTS
Prayer Chain requests: Call Tom and Judith Eckhard: 973-267-8848 or e-mail them: TEckhard@aol.com
Church Prayers for any person are made by filling out the cards from the pew box in the sanctuary and then putting them into the offering plate. Please print or write clearly so that there is no question about your request.
HEALTH MANAGEMENT INFORMATION
o Advance Directive forms are available in the Health Ministry rack at the Parish House. Don't wait for a health crisis or old age to complete one. Choose one of the versions available or prepare one with your attorney.
o Previous Health Ministry articles are available to read on the church's website
o Videos for Alzheimer Caregivers are available to borrow for home viewing and are located on the table when blood pressures are taken.
o Support groups and general health information
o Self-help Clearing House book is available in the Parish House on a table near the Health Ministry pamphlet rack. It contains lists of local support groups.
o A helpful website is www.firstcall.org
o NJ programs are available on www.irissoft.com/morr
IS IT A COLD OR THE FLU?
Fall brings with it the need to prepare for the winter that lies ahead.
Flu is a common winter ailment that can sometimes lead to rather serious
problems.
It is often difficult to determine if you have a cold or the flu.
Some fast flu factsinclude the following:
* The flu is an airborne virus - spread from one person to another
by droplets from coughing or sneezing.
* Although flu symptoms are felt throughout the body, the flu virus
lives and multiplies primarily in the lungs.
* Upset stomach and vomiting are not symptoms of the flu - "stomach
flu" is usually caused by other microorganisms and is often mistakenly
referred to as the "flu".
Determining if you have the flu or just a bad cold is the first
step in treatment.
| COMMON SYMPTOMS |
COLD |
FLU |
| Fever |
Rare |
Yes, high (102-104 F) may last 3-4 days |
| Muscle aches, joint pain |
Slight |
Usual; often severe |
| Fatigue, Weakness |
Mild |
Rare |
| Headache |
Rare |
Prominent |
| Chest discomfort, Cough |
Sinus congestion |
Common; can be severe; hacking cough |
| |
|
|
| COMPLICATIONS |
Sinus congestion |
Bronchitis, pneumonia or earache; can be life-threatening |
| |
|
|
| TREATMENT |
Only temporary relief of symptoms |
Anti-viral medications - See your doctor |
The best treatment is prevention. And if you do get sick, don't
play the martyr and come into work, or church--if you do, you'll only
make everyone around you miserable.
PREVENTION
1. Try to avoid getting a Cold
2. Wash your hands often. You can pick up cold germs easily,
even when shaking someone's hand or touching doorknobs or handrails.
3. Avoid people with colds when possible.
4. If you sneeze or cough, do it into a tissue and then discard the
tissue.
5, Clean surfaces you touch with a germ-killing disinfectant.
6. Don't touch your nose, eyes or mouth. Germs can enter your
body easily by these paths
Try to avoid getting the Flu
In addition to the preventive measures listed above,
get a flu shot. The best time to do this is mid October to mid
November. Remember, antibiotics are not effective against cold and
flu viruses. Fluids and plenty of rest are most helpful. Worship
via radio or the website until you are well.
MKW
REMINDERS:
We offer reminders that may be helpful to members
of the congregation:
HEALTH CARE: Blood pressures are taken by Nancy
Rossman RN, on the second Sunday of each month in
the Narthex. Consider having yours checked periodically!
MEDICAL SUPPLIES such as wheelchairs, walkers,
bedpans, etc., are available from the Deacons' Closet
in the basement of the parish house.
PRAYER REQUESTS: Prayer Chain Requests: Call Judith and
Tom Eckhard (973-537-7028) or email them at TEckhard@aol.com . Church
Prayers for any person are made by filling out the cards in
the sanctuary and putting them in the offering plate. Please print
or write clearly so there is no question about your request.:
HEALTH MANAGEMENT INFORMATION:
‡
Advance Directive forms are available
in the Health Ministry rack at the Parish House. Don't
wait for a health crisis or old age to complete one.
Choose one of the versions available or prepare
one with your attorney.
‡
Previous Health Ministry articles
are available to read on the church's website
‡
Videos for Alzheimer Caregivers
are available to borrow for home viewing and are located
on the table when blood pressures are taken.
‡
Support groups and general health
information
o
Self-help Clearing House book is available
in the Parish House on a table near the Health Ministry
pamphlet rack. It contains lists of local support
groups.
o
A helpful website is www.firstcall.org
o
NJ programs are available on
www.irissoft.com/morr
Domestic Violence Awareness
One in five families sitting in the pews in our faith
communities have some form of physical or emotional domestic
violence occurring in their family. The most severe pain
a victim of domestic violence suffers is not the emotional
or physical pain but it is the deep and profound pain
of a wounded spirit. The violence destroys a person's
faith in God and one's sense of feeling loved, as a part
of God's creation. We are individuals created with a mind,
body and spirit. When one of these parts is violated,
all parts are violated.
We all have basic Spiritual Needs. At the center of our
being are the needs for:
* meaning and purpose for life
* forgiveness
* love
* hope
* faith in a greater being
Domestic violence shatters these basic spiritual needs.
Our faith communities should be a sanctuary for comfort
and safety for the victims of abuse who sit in our pews
in silence. If you or someone you know is in an abusive
situation, the hot-line number to call is: Battered Women's
Service Hotline
Morristown Area
973-267-4763
If you would like more information on domestic violence,
please contact the
Statewide Domestic Violence Information Hotline
1-800-572-SAFE
"It is not my enemy that taunts me...it is you, my equal,
my companion, my familiar friend." Psalm 55:12-13.
Healthy Snacking—Snacking has become a way of life
for both children and adults. A recent study reported that
over 95% of the women and children in this country have
at least one snack each day. We've all heard the old adage,
"No snacking between meals!" but actually, snacks can
be good for us if we make good choices.
Many children arrive home from school and head straight to
the refrigerator for a snack. Those who have high activity
levels frequently need more calories than three meals
a day provide. Snacks can help round out their nutritional
requirements and provide as much as one-fourth of their
calories. Snacks will not ruin their appetites for regular
meals as long as they are not eaten shortly before they
sit down to lunch or dinner. Snacks are another opportunity
for parents to provide healthy food choices to their children
while reinforcing good eating habits—learning to eat when
you experience hunger, not just because you're bored,
watching TV or are rewarding yourself for finishing homework.
When snacking, children often reach for the closest food
at hand. If there are healthy items in the refrigerator
or cupboard, the child will become accustomed to snacking
on these foods. The healthiest and simplest choices are:
- cut vegetables (carrots, cucumbers, celery, peppers,
broccoli, cauliflower, zucchini) with or without a dip
of dry salad dressing mixed with low-fat yogurt.
- fresh fruit (berries, cantaloupe, grapes, kiwi, oranges,
apples, peaches etc., frozen fruit pops made from unsweetened
fruit juice) and fun fruits like frozen grapes or bananas.
- smoothies (blend one cup skim milk, three ice cubes,
favorite fresh fruit, dash of vanilla, cinnamon, and nutmeg).
- whole grain bread or crackers with peanut butter or
cheese, mini pizzas.
- low-fat quick breads and muffins such as pumpkin, zucchini,
banana or bran.
Adults, who are always on a weight loss diet and are never
satisfied with a healthy body weight, may find that the
key to weight control may be to eat more. Several smaller
portions of nutrient dense foods throughout the day, in
conjunction with regular exercise, can increase metabolism
and actually help burn more calories. Although healthy
snacks for adults may have to be those that can be consumed
at one's desk, or during a commute, they include the same
types of food as suggested for children - they may just
need to be more portable. An apple or an orange for a
midmorning snack may be just enough to curb appetite.
Nonfat pretzels or butter free popcorn may serve as a midafternoon
snack. Low fat yogurt with fresh fruit or granola as well as
raw vegetables are also good choices.
Once in awhile, chips or ice cream or a candy bar
or soda are OK as a snack, but regular snacks should be
more nutritious.
Remember to thank God for the food we eat.
Sun Protection is for Everyone!
Sun exposure adds up day after day. It is important to protect your skin from
the damaging effects of the sun whenever you are outdoors.
Protecting skin from the sun’s rays could prevent about
80% of skin cancers.
Staying safe in the sun is simple:
•SLIP on a shirt. Choose shirts and pants to protect
as much skin as possible.
•SLOP on sunscreen. Choose sunscreen with SPF of 15
or higher.
•SLAP on a hat. Choose a hat that shades the face, neck
and ears.
•WRAP on sunglasses. Protect your eyes from UV rays.
•Limit sun exposure. Stay out of the sun between l p.m.
and 4 p.m. when the UV rays are strongest. Look for
shade in the middle of the day.
Parents: Take Note:
•No matter how much your teenager
begs, sunlamps and tanning booths are harmful and damage
the skin.
•Avoiding sunburn during childhood and adolescence is
very important in reducing the risk of skin cancer later
in life.
•Sunscreen is not recommended for children less than
six months old. Use cautiously with all children. Sunlight
helps to make Vitamin D. Children need Vitamin D for
growth. Sunscreen at the beach is good, but if just
staying out for short periods of play, it may not be
necessary.
•Building safe sun habits into your family’s daily
routine is easier
than you think.
Bike Safety all year round
Protect your child (and yourself) with proper helmet
use:
• Don’t negotiate: Failing to wear a helmet is NOT
an option. It’s estimated that 75% of bicycle-related
deaths among children could be prevented with a bicycle
helmet.
• Buy a helmet that meets or exceeds current safety
standards developed by the U.S. Consumer Product Safety
Commission
• Correct fit is essential. Helmets should be comfortable
and snug, but not too tight. They shouldn’t rock back
and forth, or side to side.
• Make sure your child wears his/her helmet correctly
centered on top of the head with the straps buckled.
Children who wear their helmets tipped back have a 52%
greater risk of head injury than those who wear their
helmets properly.
• Let your child choose their own helmet - especially
if he/she is reluctant to wear one. Helmets come in
many colors and styles; allowing children to choose
a helmet that’s “cool” may make them less likely to
take it off.
Angkor Hospital
for Children in Siem Reap, Cambodia... a health
ministry we can all be part of...
This wandering nurse managed well after three weeks
on bicycle adventures… dodging scattered cats, dogs,
motorcycles and other bicycles. Angkor Hospital for
Children in Siem Reap, Cambodia was a mile from the
“White House,” where volunteers working at the hospital
are housed. Poignant memories persist from my springtime
experience in this developing country, so ravaged by
the Kymer Rouge. My mission was to present some lectures
to nurses, however, I gained far more than I ever gave.
I learned about the culture and history of the country
and witnessed the dedication and competence of nurses and
physicians under adverse conditions with limited medical equipment/supplies.
All 65 beds of the hospital inpatient unit are continually
filled with children having various diagnoses of malnutrition,
pneumonia, HIV/AIDS, congenital deformities, burns,
fractures, amputations from land mine accidents, etc.
One thirteen-year-old girl with AIDS, pneumonia and
Kwashiorkor (a malnutrition condition I learned about
in nursing school, but never before saw) begged to go
home to die. Her body, so extremely thin with skin over
outlined bones, was about the size of a nine year old.
Her belly and ankles were swollen. I witnessed her smile
only once, as she played with a “Slinky” toy, brought
from the USA. Another 12 year old child, who seriously
burned her left hand in boiling water at age 6 months, finally
had the opportunity to receive surgery, releasing her curled
up, scarred fingers. Donations from various world-wide
organizations help to some extent with food available
from the World Health Organization, immunizations from
Unicef, HIV medications from Doctors without Borders.
Making rounds at the hospital can break your heart,
witnessing the suffering of children, true victims of
poverty and a tumultuous history in a developing country.
On a day to day basis I was constantly aware of how
much surplus we experience in the USA with “things,”
food, large homes, lavish meals, entertainment and always
available health care. The complaints of a “bad day,”
“having to wait in the doctor’s office,” or feeling
“bored” all contribute to our taking so much for granted.
In Angkor Hospital the out-patient clinic services almost
300 children each day from Monday thru Friday. Parents
walk to the hospital or sometimes borrow money for a
motorcycle ride. Some parents travel two days from the
countryside for health care, and sometimes the child
dies before reaching the hospital. Angkor Hospital originated
nine years ago by a Japanese photographer stunned at
the plight of Cambodian children, poor and without health
care. During these years the hospital developed on a
Western model, using English for communication and charting,
thus promoting bi-lingual nurses and doctors, so that
volunteers from all over the world share in teaching
and updating the medical staff. During my visit, eleven
volunteers from five countries were participating in
this process.
The home care program, supported by Save the Children
organization, is unique in the country. One home care
visit took us on rutted, dirt roads for 2 hours to find
the family’s hut. In the countryside no one has a toilet,
a TV, a radio, a calendar, a clock, a newspaper, or
a car, because there is no running water, electricity,
shops or transportation, (other than your feet or an
occasional bicycle or a cart pulled by oxen). Food and
clothing are consistently inadequate. Unemployment is
rampant. Most citizens are illiterate. I never saw a child
with a toy. Cambodians are warm, friendly, gentle people,
who deserve to have a safe level of living. We can all help
these beautiful people by contributing to charities
that help children or to even to this hospital. We can
reexamine our own lives and recognize its blessings.
We can teach our children to give to others in time
and/or service. The world will always experience suffering,
but we cannot stand by and ignore our responsibility
to alleviate whatever amount of distress that we can,
one person at a time. Instead of “God Bless America,”
how about “God Bless the World,” and we personally
will each help in the process of healing! JFK
Can it be that laughter is a healing
medicine?
Remember those belly laughs
of childhood? Laughing has been found to lower blood
pressure, reduce stress hormones, increase muscle flexion,
and boost immune function. Laughter triggers the release
of endorphins, the body's natural painkillers, and produces
a general sense of well-being, as reported by Dr. Lee
Berk and Dr. Stanley Tan of Loma Linda University in
California. The response produced by belly laughter
was opposite of what is seen in classical stress, supporting
the conclusion that laughter produces healthy or positive
emotions. (September/October 1996 issue of the Humor
and Health Journal)
From a study at UCLA's Children's Hospital, “Rx Laughter”
is a program that uses comedy films and television for
seriously ill children and adolescents undergoing medical
procedures. As these patients enjoyed funny shows during
treatment, their immune function and speed of healing
was improved, incapacitating pain was reduced and there
was improvement in their quality of life. The experience
decreased anxiety, fear and isolation during their lengthy
and difficult treatments. Children and teens in the
Rx Laughter program suffering with cancer, leukemia
and diabetes. They were in intensive care and pediatric critical
isolation, receiving dialysis, chemotherapy, bone marrow treatments
and organ transplants, or had with orthopedic injuries,
chronic arthritis and severe wounds and burns.
Laughter changes our health by making us feel more in
control and puts us in a more positive, upbeat and optimistic
mood. Changing one’s perspective on life puts you in
a better position to cope with that stress of your job
and life itself. The emotional state that results from
humor and laughter are incompatible with anger and upset.
Dear God, Thank you for the baby brother but what
I asked for was a puppy.
I never asked for anything before. You can look it up.
Love, Joyce
God, I read the Bible. What does beget mean? Nobody
will tell me. Love, Alison
"God has a smile on His face." Psalm 42:5
"I commend mirth." Ecclesiastes 8:15
"Let your heart by merry." Judges 19:6
During a sermon about “Forgive Your Enemies,” a
pastor asked how many parishioners were willing to forgive
their enemies. Half held up their hands.
Twenty minutes later he asked again and received an
80%. Still unsatisfied, he repeated his question. All
hands raised except one elderly lady in the rear.
"Mrs. Jones, are you not willing to forgive your enemies?"
"I don't have any."
"Mrs. Jones, that is very unusual. How old are
you?"
"Ninety-three."
"Mrs. Jones, please come down in front and tell the
congregation how a person can live to ninety-three and
not have an enemy in the world."
The little lady teetered down the aisle, slowly turned
around and said: "Easy. I just outlived them all!"
Humor is a universal language. It's a contagious
emotion and a natural diversion. It brings other people
in and breaks down barriers. Best of all, it is free
and has no known negative side effects. Add laughter
to your every day.
Good for a smile!
Research shows that laughter brings in positive emotions
that can enhance – not replace conventional medical
treatments. It is another wonderful tool available to
help fight disease.
DOCTOR: Sorry I made you wait so long
PATIENT: I didn’t mind the wait so much, but I did think
you’d like to treat my illness in its early stages.
At Sunday school Johnny learned how God created
everything, including humans. He was especially attentive
when he heard that Eve was created out of one of Adam’s
ribs. Later that week his mother noticed him lying down
as if he were ill. She said, “Johnny, what is the matter?”
Johnny responded, “I have a pain in my side. I think
I’m going to have a wife.”
Remember the “belly laugh” of childhood?
A belly laugh is equivalent to "an internal jogging."
Laughter can provide good cardiac conditioning especially
for those who are unable to perform physical exercises.
A Sunday school teacher was discussing the Ten Commandments
with 5 and 6 year olds. After explaining the commandment
to “Honor they father and they mother,” she asked “Is
there a commandment that teaches us how to treat our
brothers and sisters?” Without missing a beat, one little
boy answered, “Thou shall not kill.”
Sign in a school next to a basket of apples: “Only take
one apple, God is watching.”
Sign in the cafeteria next to a plate of cookies: “Take
as many as you want. God is busy watching the apples.”
Frequent belly laughter empties your lungs of more air
than it takes in resulting in a cleansing effect - similar
to deep breathing. It is especially beneficial for patients
who are suffering from emphysema and other respiratory
ailments.
Charlie Brown says, “Good humor makes all things possible.”
Make good humor a vital part of your life.
In a study published in the Journal
of Holistic Nursing, patients were told one-liners
after surgery and before painful medication was administered.
Those exposed to humor perceived less pain when compared
to patients who didn't get a dose of humor as part of
their therapy.
TEACHER: What are the four main food groups?
STUDENT: Canned, frozen, instant and lite.
TOURIST (to farmer): “Have you lived here all your life?”
FARMER (to tourist): “Not yet.”
“Doc, give it to me straight. What kind of shape am
I in?”
“Let’s put it this way, Mr. Smith. From now on you
pay in advance.”
Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body's
natural painkillers, and produces a general sense of
well-being. It also offers a powerful distraction from
pain. Use this gift from God in YOUR healing process.
The Value of Summer
Camps
Summer camp is a great experience for many kids, but in
the past, children with special physical and social disabilities
were often excluded. Now there are camps that provide
benefits that may not be found elsewhere. The opportunity
to get the medical and psychological support some children
need, on a daily basis, while enjoying outdoor life away
from home could make a great difference in fostering a
sense of independence.
Many such camps exist throughout the United States, with
thirteen or more in northern New Jersey alone. They can
be either “Day Care” or “Sleepover.” The latter predominate,
and most are summer camps, but year-round day-care centers
are available for specific indications. Contact a health
organization that specializes in the condition in which
you are interested.
Summer camps provide special care for children with one
or more of at least twenty-three different health problems.
Some of the more common ones are diabetes, asthma and
respiratory illnesses, epilepsy, Down’s syndrome and Attention
Deficit Disorders. Some are faith oriented, too.
Determine if your child might benefit from a camping experience
supervised by trained professionals which focuses on one
or more conditions and might be good for and enjoyed by
him/her. It is strongly suggested that you involve your
child in the discussions and in decision making.
There are several ways to begin: 1) Personal contact from
a reliable source with someone who has a family member
or friend in such a camp. 2) Ask advice from an approved
organization devoted to a specific health problem, such
as the American Diabetes Association. 3) Visit web sites
for greater detail. One is the National Camp Association
– http://www.summercamp.org
Another is the American Camp Association of New Jersey
– http://www.acacamps.org
These associations visit camps regularly and certify those
that come up to standards. Interested parents can go through
the question and answer process offered which is thorough,
helpful, and worth while, without being committal.
It is good to know that people of all beliefs are anxious
to give assistance in this and other areas of concern
for children with special needs. Of course, the basic
joy of experiencing living in God’s great outdoors has
a healing benefit for children with or without disabilities.
DB&FB
Tips when making food choices
We read all the time about how a healthy diet, exercise,
and regular mental activity help us live longer and
better. However, as our metabolism slows down with age
and calorie needs decrease, there are other ways to
make sound eating choices.
Increase fiber intake to prevent constipation and decrease
risk of colon problems. Fiber also helps protect against
diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure. Go
for whole-grain foods, like high fiber cereals or whole
wheat breads, and whole foods, such as a fresh apple
instead of apple sauce. Substitute legumes, like beans
or lentils, instead of meat a couple of times a week.
Drink plenty of fluids. As we age, our thirst mechanism
declines. Inadequate fluid sets us up for chronic constipation,
low blood pressure, impaired kidney function, and kidney
stones. Try for eight glasses of fluid a day.
Choose nutrient dense foods (lots of nutrients in relation
to number of calories.) These include richly colored
fruits and vegetables and whole grains. Do not replace
a balanced diet with liquid supplements. Use them to
boost rather than replace a healthy diet.
Bon appetit!
TRAVELERS …………Be
Aware, Be Prepared
Many of us are planning trips abroad for a variety of reasons.
It may be a vacation, a mission project, an exploration
of adventure. “Getting ready” means taking time to
make the necessary arrangements in addition to purchasing
airline tickets. Staying safe and healthy is a top priority,
so we address some items to ease this process.
Make sure your passport is current. The department of
State recommends that you passport should be good for
at least 3-6 months after your trip is scheduled to
end. Be sure you have enough blank pages if a visa is
required. To get information on how a passport can be
updated or acquired, call (973) 285-6160.
If you need a visa for the country to which you are
going, contact the embassy of the country or check on
the Internet @ http://travel.state.gov/
Immunizations and anti-malarial medications are specific
for each country and should be obtained 6-8 weeks before
departure. Morristown Memorial Hospital has a Travel
MD Department. Call (973) 971-7291 for information.
Your primary physician may also have the needed information.
If you take medications, keep them in their original,
labeled containers. Have a copy of your prescriptions.
If you are taking any kind of narcotics or unusual drugs,
a letter from you doctor attesting to the need for the
drug is helpful. There will be less questioning if they
are packed in your suitcase and not carried.
Additional items to take include: 2-3 extra passport
photos, copies of your passport and credit cards, a
basic first aid kit, an extra pair of prescription glasses,
mosquito repellent, sunscreen or motion sickness pills
if that applies to the location of your visit, adaptor
plugs, a flashlight, a sewing kit, film.
To prepare for personal safety, plan to dress conservatively.
Avoid wearing jewelry, and travel as lightly as you
can so that you are not a target as a “tourist of affluence.”
If you carry valuables, conceal them in several places,
rather than all in one wallet or pouch. Handbags, fanny
packs and outside pockets are easy targets for thieves.
Inside pockets, a sturdy shoulder bag with a strap worn
across the chest, a money pouch under your clothing
are safer storing places.
Obtain travel and medical evacuation insurance if desired.
Give your family copies of your itinerary, airline ticket,
passport, credit
cards, traveler check numbers, and any travel insurance
in case of an emergency.
Keeping in mind that we are Christians and ambassadors
of the United States, our personal behavior shows our
sensitivity to cultural and social beliefs and faith
practices of the host country.
Representing the best of what we believe and the best
that we can be is witness to others of our good will,
respect, and authenticity. May you travel with God’s
grace and blessings, sharing with His children throughout
the world.
A common health problem abroad
Anywhere from 10 to 60 percent of all travelers to developing
nations are afflicted with Travelers Diarrhea (TD).
According to the CDC, bacteria are the most common cause
of this problem, although a variety of viruses and parasites
may also be causative agents. The result of this illness
is dehydration; drinking clear fluids is the remedy.
If TD lasts for more than 4 days, or if nausea, vomiting,
abdominal cramps, fever, or bloody stools occur, antibiotics
may be needed. When a fever >100.4F or bloody stools
are present, it is advisable to seek medical assistance.
Prevention is the greatest way to minimize risk of “Traveler’s
Diarrhea”
DON’T
Eat foods or drink beverages purchased from street vendors
or other establishments where unhygienic conditions
are present
Eat raw or undercooked meat and seafood
Eat raw fruits and vegetables unless they are peeled
Drink tap water, unpasteurized milk and dairy products
Drink or brush your teeth with untreated tap water
Drink fruit drinks (such as lemonade) that are made
with tap water
Use ice cubes (usually made with tap water)
DO
Wash your hands with soap and water or clean them with
alcohol skin cleaner before eating.
Eat well-cooked and packaged foods
Drink bottled water, bottled/canned carbonated beverages,
hot tea or coffee, beer
Use bottled water when brushing teeth and cleaning tooth
brush
Malaria prevention abroad…
Large areas of Central and South America, sub-Saharan
Africa, India, Southeast Asia, the Middle East, and
Oceania have a potential for the transmission of malaria
from mosquitoes to humans. Drug prevention before, during,
and after the trip is a protection against malaria.
Check with your physician or Travel Med at (973) 971-7291
to find out your risk for malaria and what prevention
is necessary. Because mosquitoes are out between dusk
and dawn, these are the hours to be most careful to
reduce contact with them. Remain in well screened areas,
use mosquito nets and wear clothes that cover most of
the body. Insect repellent with DEET is also recommended
to spray on clothes and exposed skin.
AIDS ………… a global epidemic
Overall, most travelers abroad have minimal chances
of being exposed to AIDS and should not be especially
concerned. However, there are certain precautions to
follow:
Avoid any procedure that pierces the skin, such as tattoos,
ear piercing, acupuncture, immunizations, or injections.
Reduce the risk of serious injury, which may require
blood transfusions, by taking everyday, common sense
precautions.
Postpone any blood transfusion, if you are injured,
unless it is absolutely necessary. If you need blood,
try to ensure that screened blood is used
Travelers' Health Information can
be obtained from the Center for Disease Control (CDC)
using the following sources:
http://www.cdc.gov/travel/
PHONE: 877-FYI-TRIP toll free
FAX: 888-232-3299 toll free
THINGS TO INCLUDE IN A FIRST-AID KIT FOR TRAVELING:
1. Your prescription medicines, in their original containers.
2. Medicine for diarrhea and upset stomach. Talk to
your doctor about getting a prescription for an antibiotic
you can take in case you get traveler's diarrhea. Pack
drugs such as: Pepto Bismol, Imodium and antacids. (or
generic brands)
3. Cough and cold medicines.
4. Pain medicines, such as aspirin, Tylenol, Aleve,
Motrin (or generic brands)
5. Decongestants and antihistamines for allergies. (The
kinds that don't cause sleepiness)
6. Antibiotic ointment, adhesive bandages, hydrocortisone
cream, moleskin for blisters, sunscreen with a sun protection
factor (SPF) of at least 15 and lip balm
7. Medicine for motion sickness, such as Dramamine),
an anti-nausea drug like Phenergan: Diamox may help
prevent altitude sickness (or generic brands)
8. Tweezers, nail clippers, thermometer, mirror must
be placed in checked luggage
TALKING WITH “TWEENS”
Tweens, those children between 10 and 14, are not young
children anymore. We can’t talk down to them, yet we can’t
talk to them as adults. Safety remains a paramount issue
with this age group, just as it was when the tweens were
younger, but they can now be more responsible in protecting
themselves. The importance of safety introduces the decision
making of “pro’s and con’s” of different actions. Parents
still should make the basic rules and provide guidelines
for staying safe, but tweens can learn to think through
the consequences of their actions. It is important to
talk together about plans and rules, listening to the
child’s viewpoint as well. If everyone in the family follows
the same rules, it makes it harder to ignore them. Being
serious about what to do in case of an emergency, wearing
helmets, wearing seatbelts, crossing at crosswalks, etc.,
all keep us safe. Parents, as role models to their children,
need to follow the same safety rules at home and wherever they
go. If parents are conscientious of family safety rules,
tweens will be more likely to follow them too, even when
they are not with parents.
Independent in many ways, the tweens still need rules,
guidelines and guidance. Unintentional injury is an important
risk that you and your tween can minimize together. A
few injury threats for tweens include:
Among children 10-14 years, the leading cause of accidental
death is car and truck crashes
More children ages 14 and under die from unintentional
injury than from any other cause
Children who are hospitalized between ages 10-14 years
are most likely to have been admitted due to unintentional
injuries
Children ages 14 and under are more likely to be fatally
injured at home
Helmet use by children is lowest among 11-14 year olds
Teaching safety habits such as using seat belts, crossing
at crosswalks, looking both ways before crossing, care
with bicycles, care when skiing, and wearing protective
pads when skateboarding are all important to teach our
tweens.
At any age, hearing loss is a common
cause of embarrassment and misunderstanding between
those who lack good hearing and those whose hearing
is normal. For instance, remarks such as “What? I can’t
understand you!” “Speak up!” “You never listen to
me!” can often lead to irritability and friction. As
we age, lack of accurate hearing may even suggest Alzheimer’s
to someone other than ourselves. The result can be an
abrupt ending to an otherwise pleasant conversation.
Personal hearing devices should be tailored to each
individual. In some the problem is poor bone conduction,
others have impaired air or nerve conduction. One device
may correct one condition, but not the other. Also,
each ear must be adjusted separately. In other words,
there is seldom “one kind fits all.”
Advice to both sides might be of help, which is where
this article is leading. The hard of hearing may need
to “give in” and seek a good evaluation by a specialist.
He or she must learn to accept the impartial conclusion,
get a good hearing aid fitted, and not be embarrassed
to use it. Husbands and wives usually work things out
through experience, but we can all benefit by a few
pointers that can help to make conversations a real
pleasure. For one, keep an open mind (hearing loss does
not equate with a low I. Q.!) A little patience and
an attempt to be helpful are also good tips. Especially
be aware of extraneous background noises such as in
crowds (in the narthex during fellowship between services).
Today’s best technical hearing aids are not perfect,
so the following courtesies should be observed: paying
attention; looking directly at the other person while
conversing; keeping one’s voice steady and at a reasonable
volume; trying to read lips; and, slow down a bit –
these things can help both parties overcome background
noise, even between those with normal hearing!
When conversations are tempered by thoughtfulness and
respect, they can be more comfortable and rewarding
for the hearing-impaired and the non-impaired alike.
Located in the narthex of both the church and the Chapel
are conveniently placed, good hearing aids for use by
anyone in need, free of charge. But, don’t forget to
return it after the service, and, please, no turning
it off during the sermon!
How to Buy Hearing Aids
In line with the January issue of the Tower Tidings topic
of impaired hearing is today’s subject on how to choose
the proper hearing aid. Thousands of brands are on the
market, and it can be very expensive, so if you need one
it is useful to know ways of picking out the right one.
First, do you want one for both ears or just one ear?
If one ear is normal there is no problem. If both ears
are hearing-impaired, and assuming both can be improved
by a hearing device, you then have a choice to make. Bear
in mind that in that situation having an aid in each ear
will give you better quality, tone, and general satisfaction,
but one alone will be better than nothing and will be
half as expensive. You’ve got to talk this over with your
ear doctor and with the audiologist, and this applies
to all the other choices you will have to make.
There are behind-the-ear and in-the-ear devices; one or
the other of which may be best for a specific kind of
hearing impairment. Generally speaking, behind the ear
kind are best for the more severely impaired. In-the-ear
types are less visible to other people, although the less
visible the greater may be the expense.
Hearing Aids, Batteries:
Most hearing aid devices require one specific kind of
battery depending on the make and kind of the device,
so the cost is more or less fixed to begin with. This
applies both to the size and the power output. You may
wish to ask the specialist serving you the choices available,
and compare the cost. Most drugstores and food chain stores
carry a varied supply, one of which will have your battery
number on it in large print.
One tip: avoid rechargeable batteries; their expense is
seldom cost effective.
Cost is important but final choice of hearing aids should
be based on the best quality for the individual being
serviced even if a bit above one’s budget. The following
good features should always be considered:
Get the best quality you can afford
Class D circuits give less distortion than do Class A
circuits
A Dispenser with adjustable feedback control prevents
“whistling”
A Dispenser with adjustable tone control fine tunes your
needs
A Dispenser that adjusts output limitation prevents too
much loudness.
Attitude shapes reality
Two elderly men each need canes to help with walking.
One sees his cane as confirmation that he is becoming
feeble and his mobility is destroyed. He sees himself
as eventually confined to a wheelchair and later to
a bed. The other views his cane as an object giving
him freedom to walk on his own with stability and independence.
He shows his granddaughter how she can pretend it is
a hobby horse, and he makes up riding stories for her
amusement. He decorates it for the season with a sprig of
holly and a bow.
Two men, similar circumstances, vastly different attitudes.
As this New Year of 2005 approaches, how will attitude
shape the reality of your life and your health?
“Be very careful, then, how you live…, making the
most of every opportunity” (Eph 5:15)
Change brings new challenges
Life brings change at unpredictable times. It shakes your
faith and diminishes your hope. During the Christmas season,
change often holds painful consequences. The death of
a loved one, divorce, moving to another part of the country,
the loss of a job, un-payable bills, depression, angry
family members, sudden illness and so forth. This makes
holiday festivities difficult to enjoy or even partake.
Reminders intrude constantly: others laughter and talking
about buying gifts or about family gatherings, music at
the mall, celebrations at church, parties, requests to
volunteer when time demands are extreme. How do we get through
these difficult times? What gives us strength?
Faith encompasses a belief in God and a connection with
others. These two can keep us stable and coping. Pray
and be aware of the people God sends to help us. We may
not get what we ask for, but we will receive what
we need.
Accept support from those who offer, ask for help when
feeling overwhelmed, offer to help someone else, find
some quiet time with a friend, share your angst, explore
aspects of your life in which you feel blessed. Plan an
event you know will be positive, even if it is markedly
different from a traditional ritual. Hope must exist in
order to keep your spirit alive. A positive attitude can
bring change for a healthy spirit.
The gift of memory
Reminiscing is very "healthful" for people of all
ages in the ways it can enhance our lives. It allows us
to re-experience previous life situations and helps
to integrate our past with our current life. It helps
us make meaning out of previous experiences. It strengthens
our self-esteem and reduces feelings of isolation. ''Remembering''
can develop a powerful sense of ourselves as survivors
and reemphasizes our interdependence on other people.
Kierkegaard remarked: "Life can only be understood backwards,
but it must be lived forwards." Benefit from this gift
of memory by asking older citizens to share their life
stored memories, by retelling the stories of those who
have lived and died, by recalling your own past stories.
Whether you are the memory teller or the memory listener,
you can reap the blessings of this gift. In our lives
we can become more aware of the ways in which God has
been faithful and merciful to us. We live today and
tomorrow in the confidence of His enduring love.
Reminiscing suggestions for our December theme
of sharing treasured memories with those we love and
care about:
Remember the memories, record them in writing
or on audio/video tape. Relate them to another person.
To help another person in their reminiscing, try these
suggestions: Look at pictures, letters, souvenirs to
stimulate the flow of memories. Listen attentively and
thoughtfully. Offer encouragement and support to the
person reminiscing. Encourage the person to share the
experiences AND their feelings. Assist in recording
the reminiscences, so they can be used in the future.
We pray that the Lord richly blesses your reminiscing,
and you experience His peace and joy.
Now that our stewardship drive is over and we have
set a plan to include our younger generations in our church
life and expand our global outreach, how about holiday
traditions in our own Morristown Presbyterian Church.
While they are still among us, ask our older members to
recall Christmas in their childhood. Their memories with
those of us born and raised in other parts of the world
are a source of living history, much more interesting
and vivid than reading from a book.
Every year, we all have been thrilled by the beauty of
the decorations in the sanctuary and the music of the
Messiah as well as the beloved familiar hymns, the result
of dedicated and gifted workers and choir members. To
many of us, Christmas means candlelit midnight services,
and there are still those among us who will never forget
the privilege of having taken part in a magnificent procession
and living crèche every year. Radio City’s Christmas
show is hardly more spectacular and certainly not as personally
involving to both the participants and audience. In earlier
years, Santa never arrived until Christmas Eve. We gave
our dads our letters to mail to him and were sure to leave
cookies and cocoa on the mantle. Many of our presents were homemade
(with much love), especially during the great depression.
Most of us lived in neighborhoods near our grandparents
and cousins, so there were great family gatherings and
fun just by walking two or three blocks to a beautiful
feast at Grandma’s house on Christmas Day. In the South,
sparklers and Roman candles were in the stockings Christmas
morning for fireworks Christmas night. Some of us had
angels to top our trees; others had stars. Gingerbread
men and houses, stuffed dates, plum pudding, fig pudding,
fruit cake, ice cream molds, roast goose, turkey, pork,
oysters, fish, lollypops in the shape of Santa, all kinds of
candy and cookies, and Lionel trains are all part of our memories.
The spiritual health of our church depends on all of us
feeling a part even when we cannot always participate
actively any more. We would love to recall our traditions,
though! Maybe they would add to yours. Just ask us!
Support Groups can be a valuable contribution to
our search for Spiritual healing. Support groups are
run by and for people who share a common problem or
life situation; members share their experience, strength,
hope, and practical solutions with the goal of reducing
emotional suffering and isolation. Support/self-help
groups include those for mental health, abuse, addiction,
bereavement, disability, health, parenting, family and
relationships, and many more. A resource that belongs
to all of us is the New Jersey Self-help Clearinghouse, a
nonprofit, statewide organization funded through the Division
of Mental Health Services, that helps people find and form
support/self-help groups. Their address: 100 E. Hanover
Ave., Suite 202; Cedar Knolls, NJ l7297
This week we include another testimony from one who
has benefited from attending a support group. Consider
such a group for difficult times.
“Sometimes we hold others up; sometimes we need to
be held up ourselves.”
My support group for ovarian cancer meets weekly, and
I look forward to meeting with the people who have become
not only my support system, but also my friends. The
group provides me with mental and emotional support,
so that I no longer feel so isolated, scared and alone.
Finding out that I am not the only one who is dealing
with a serious illness helps to relieve the depression
that can accompany it. My support group provides a forum
for discussing issues and finding ways to cope with
them. Having a good mental attitude is so important
for healing. The group also helps to provide coping skills
and provides access to information on treatment options. I
and my family have learned to formulate questions to ask physicians
regarding the illness, medications, dosages and anything
else. I have learned to be my own advocate.
Seeking help from a support group has been helpful to
this individual. We encourage you to take such a pathway
in search of a spiritual healing.
"I learned how to deal with situations and feeling that
used to overwhelm me."
There was a time in my life when I was consumed with sadness,
then incapacitating depression. Professional counseling
helped me to understand ~my feelings, but the pain of
loneliness and isolation worsened. I even turned to alcohol
for relief, not realizing that alcohol was a depressant.
No amount of will power seemed to help and I was so ashamed
of what I thought was a terrible weakness. I finally became
part of a support group, where I regularly heard from
and shared with others who had "been there." I learned
how to deal with situations and feeling that used to overwhelm
me. It was in that community of I love and acceptance
where I rediscovered my spirituality and joy of living.
A resource for help is the New Jersey Self-help Clearinghouse,
a nonprofit organization helping people find and form
self-help groups. It can be contacted at 100 E. Hanover
Ave., Suite 202, Cedar Knolls NJ 07297. Brochures are
also available from members of the Health Ministry.
The fellowship of other parishioners can
be a source of peace and comfort – people who call you
by name, give you a warm smile, a touch or handshake,
or just a pleasant glance of recognition, can all transmit
a sense of belonging and caring as we participate in our
church community.
Some of us get to know each other well enough so that
we can inquire about our specific burdens and concerns:
our illnesses, births, deaths, moves, job losses, journeys,
and the many other events that make up our lives. We can
deepen our connectedness with each other by communicating
our prayer concerns, participating in the many learning
and outreach opportunities of our church, and by utilizing
the availability and skills of our compassionate and educated
clergy. All of this reminds us that we share much in common
– our faith, a deep belief in kindness, dignity, and service,
and everyday concerns of weather, real estate, and taxes.
Sometimes, however, our concerns, burdens, and heartaches
are simply too painful, too complicated, or, we may fear,
too shameful, to allow sharing with our parishioner friends
and acquaintances. We can take an additional step along
our path of spiritual healing by considering attending
a support group.
The recent death of Elisabeth Kubler- Ross was a reminder
of her leadership as she educated us on the "stages of
grief" in her now-classic, On Death and Dying.
Hers was an early voice in teaching us that acknowledging
and mourning the many losses in our lives is normal, even
necessary, to our health. Gradually, many experts have
helped us understand that trying to be "strong" and "keep
it all inside" can have unexpected negative consequences,
such as depression, using addictions to escape our pain,
not participating fully in our lives – in short, not achieving
the spiritual growth that God continually guides (and
sometimes pushes) us toward.
A resource that belongs to all of us is the New Jersey
Self-help Clearinghouse, a nonprofit, statewide organization
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